No, You Don’t Want to Marry Your Best Friend

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No mystery, no romance.

Friendship is characterized by “letting your guard down.” Comfort, ease, familiarity, and all of the qualities that foster bonds of stability are the opposites of those that breed romance and passion.

Passion and romance are a dance — friendship is a stroll.

What makes a dance, a dance? The movements may be synchronized—they may be swift, gentle, sensual, or playful—but the body is in constant, intentional motion.

For romance and passion, marry your lover.

If you’re seeking romance and passion from your union, don’t marry your best friend. Marry your lover.

What if romance and passion aren’t your relationship priority?

Ah, the question of the hour—and the most important question you can ask yourself if you are considering marriage.

In short, know your “why.”

As with everything in life, intention creates a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you are hoping for passion, romance, and excitement, marrying your best friend is unlikely to fulfill this desire. I cannot overstate the value of crystallizing your intention before entering into any relationship, particularly if it is going to be consecrated in marriage.



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Amanda Dollinger

Amanda Dollinger


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